The Virgin and the Gipsy Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship? A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leads A woman must know that her man cares He's in charge. . . but I do it my way Do the right thing - be the captain of your ship Given a choice between two men ... In our relationship I have little doubt that my boyfriend is in charge, but because he doesn't "micromanage" I do get to do things pretty much as I like. He doesn't issue a lot of demands. If he asks me to do something I do it because I know if it weren't important to him he wouldn't have asked. That being said, we do have flexibility. This year my New Years resolution was to exercise more. This is the first New Year's resolution I haven't written off 3 days into the New Year. I know I'm getting healthier and have more stamina. I enjoy how I feel after exercising, and I even enjoy the process. It's getting started that's so difficult. At first he insisted that I at least keep up with every other day, but then life started happening all over the place. Late meetings, conferences, and various other commitments started making it impossible. Now I work on getting 100 minutes a week. I feel a lot better about what I'm doing. I know that if I put any sort of effort toward my goal I can do 100 minutes a week. Being flexible gave me a goal that was attainable with my busy schedule.
by cj on 2005 Apr 9 - 03:59 | reply to this comment
you're not micromanaged?!?!
reading a grown woman question whether she should feel like 'a brat' just because she doesn't always take the two 90 minute nappytimes prescribed by her husband...has it really gotten to the point where you doubt your own judgement that much? that's crazy!!! you have the right to your own autonomy, and if you don't feel like laying down, why should you? that's 3 hours a day of idle time...if you're sleeping 8 at night that's 11 total...almost half the day!
i am surrendered to my husband and he is to me, and we talk like equals, and each contribute our own strengths and give in easily when the other is right, or when there is a need. the love we have is deep, and it isn't a childish battle of wills. i respect him deeply, and i know that he would never resort to physical punishment, or any punishment, because he is fully mature, and so am i. he exerts no coercion over me, no fear, no judgement - only I love him so much that it is easy to serve him, and he serves me. I trust my own judgement and feel more sure, more strong every day.
